For many, Mother’s Day is an awesome celebration of life and the joys of being a parent. In our house, it is a big deal! I had an amazing Mom (Charlotte)! It’s been said that a mother’s heart is the child’s classroom. I thank God for all that my mom has taught me through the years. She was a true portrait of a godly and loving mother, and I’m proud to be her son. I am a mama’s boy and have no problem admitting it. Betsy (DeAnna’s Mama) is one of the kindest and caring individuals I know! She is an amazing servant who finds great joy in taking care of people who for whatever reason cannot take care of themselves. She, not to use an old cliché, but she literally would give the shirt off of her back.
DeAnna is a remarkable mom to Danielle and Lim. Frankly, we wanted a house full of kids, 4, 7, or 10 but that was not in the plan of God. We had one, and according to her when you make perfection, you stop! The marvelous deal is DeAnna did not give birth to any more kids, but she is Mama D to a multitude of young men and young women. Her motherhood extends beyond the borders of our immediate family and reaches innumerable individuals who she has invested, mentored, and loved. It’s one of the things I love the most about her. She would pick lint off a stranger!
But Mother’s Day is also a rollercoaster of sentiments for myself, my friends, and my family. Not to take away from the joys of the day, but for many, it can be a difficult day. My mother passed away in 2016 and DeAnna and I also experienced a miscarriage, so Mother’s Day is a mark of our own grief. I have had friends who struggled with infertility and every Mother’s Day is a reminder of their struggle.
As you can see, Mother’s Day can be a mix of emotions.
♥ To those who gave birth this year to their first child—we celebrate with you.
♥ To those who lost a child this year—we mourn with you.
♥ To those who are in the trenches with little ones every day and wear the badge of food stains—we appreciate you.
♥ To those who experienced loss through miscarriage, failed adoptions or running away—we mourn with you.
♥ To those who walk the hard path of infertility, fraught with pokes, prods, tears and disappointment—we walk with you. Forgive us when we say foolish things. We don’t mean to make things harder.
♥ To those who are foster moms, mentor moms and spiritual moms—we need you.
♥ To those who have warm and close relationships with your children—we celebrate with you.
♥ To those who have disappointment, heartache and distance with your children—we sit with you.
♥ To those who lost their mothers this year—we grieve with you.
♥ To those who experienced abuse at the hands of your own mother—we acknowledge your experience.
♥ To those who lived through driving tests, medical tests and the overall testing of motherhood—we are better for having you in our midst.
♥ To those who have aborted children—we remember them and you on this day.
♥ To those who are single and long to be married and mothering your own children—we mourn that life has not turned out the way you longed for it to be.
♥ To those who stepparent—we walk with you on these complex paths.
♥ To those who envisioned lavishing love on grandchildren, yet that dream is not to be, we grieve with you.
♥ To those who will have emptier nests in the upcoming year—we grieve and rejoice with you.
♥ To those who placed children for adoption—we commend you for your selflessness and remember how you hold that child in your heart.
♥ And to those who are pregnant with new life, both expected and surprising—we anticipate with you.
This Mother’s Day, we walk with you. Mothering is not for the faint of heart and we have real warriors in our midst. We remember you.
From Amy Young, A Shoutout to Moms